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Underground Kangaroo Boxing?

 

 

Going to Sydney for Soul’s Bootcamp, and I couldn’t possibly be more excited!! I’ve never been to Australia, and anytime I get to work with Soul is always fucking awesome and a learning experience.

5.0 will be there too, and I’ve had one of the craziest nights out with him when I was in London!! These two guys are crazy good with women, and both have taught me so much and helped my game grow to extreme levels, so I can’t wait for this Workshop!

All three of us are also giving a Mini-Conference down there on some more advanced topics! Sign up above or at:

http://lovesystemssydney.eventbrite.com/

See you there!! Holla!!

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One Night Stands – Part 1

Dating Coach Dubbsy on One Night Stands

I was just listening to Braddock and Daxx’s interview on Take-aways & Boundaries and it’s inspired me to write up a post on how to get one night stands, and getting them to leave after. This is pretty much what I aim for when I go out, I’m not really interested in dates, or a girl friend right now, so this post is going to stick to one night stands & maybe later on I’ll write up another on friends with benefits.

A lot of my one night stand game came from listening to and watching Braddock, Daxx, Mr. M, Calabrese, Soul, and Pendrixx. All of these guys have tremendous game and taught me (and continue to teach me) a lot, but they still can’t beat me, and can suck it!!

This is going to be a long post, and will be broken up into segments so that you don’t go numb from sitting in front of your computer….

Ok so here it goes, Dubbsy’s One Night Stand game, take what you will and add what you want…

One night stands come down to 6 main themes: Moving them, going sexual, frame control, Tension and the release of it, being playful, and being seen as a scarce resource (feeling of loss). So that’s what we’ll be talking about folks, I’m going to start off with the last of the topics mentioned, scarce resource, and give you an easy, fun, and effective way to do it….

BE SOCIAL!!

Something Braddock makes everyone do in his seminar is social proof the room. This is money because for one, it gets your warmed up and in a social mood. Your brain starts turning, you start enjoying the environment and treating it like your playground instead of some frightening judging place. Another thing it does is get you noticed, not just by the girls, but by EVERYONE.

People will see you interacting with everyone and will want to get to know you, guys see you talking to mad girls, and they want to know how you know them, what you’re saying, who you are (leader of men anyone?)? Girls will see you talking to lots of people and they’ll be curious about you, what’s this guy got going on? And they’ll even sometimes approach you, or what usually happens is they’ll just get close to you and/or make eye contact a couple times.

It goes along with the inverted seduction principle that Mr. M wrote about, and what him and Braddock talk about in their Inner Game Seminar. People see a friendly social guy and their mirror neurons (monkey see monkey do effect) make them feel friendly and social as well, aka more receptive to your opener.

***Don’t think that every set you do this too has to go well in order for this to work and give you Social Proof!!***

I remember Calabrese asking a student, “How’d that set go? Looked like they were into you” (Student was smiling, locked in and engaging everyone in the group). The guy replied “Nah they were cursing me out and telling me to fuck off.” But what Calabrese said next opened my eyes…“Perception is reality.” Cause to us it looked like it went real well, and to everyone else it looks the same!! It doesn’t matter what actually happens in the set, as long as you don’t make a big deal or give off the impression it went bad, nobody will think it did!!

Some of you might be thinking, how does this tie in to one night stands? Social proofing will increase your value to everyone. If you’re perceived as the guy that knows everybody, people will want to get to know you, especially girl, who think that by knowing you will get them special treatment. This also gives off the appearance of options (even if they’re not there) so a girl who sees you doing this will fear losing you to all the other girls you’ve spoken to tonight. It creates a sub-conscious feeling of loss, and girls hate that…they’re so competitive!!

Ok so you’ve social proofed the room, warmed up your mouth and brain, now what? Now we’re going to lay out the details of one night stand theory for you. One night stand game is a combination of 1) Thresholds 2) Being Playful (role-plays/teasing/flirting) 3) Push-pull 4) Sexual-Hoops 5) Take-aways 6) Force framing 7) Physical escalation and tension, and 8) Sexual tension. Let’s get into each topic:

1) Thresholds (Braddock has written extensively on this, below is a summation of it):

– A threshold is what it takes for a woman to go home with you that same night

– every girl has different threshold, you have to find out what their blueprint is

o you do this by reading her signals, how she reacts to things like sexual comments, your touch, ideas of you guys moving around the bar, leaving together, going to eat, etc…

o see what buttons turn them on and which ones turn them off. I’ve literally laughed girls into bed and have them say “I love sense of humor in a guy”, but I’ve also lost girls by playing the funny card too often. Some will want to connect with you intellectually, and have you show them something different that they’ve never seen/done before, you gotta test the waters and see what hits and what doesn’t, then throw out what isn’t working and keep what is

o This goes for touch and verbal aspects as well. Some girls will let you escalate like crazy physically and not talk sexual at all, and some will want you to tell them how they won’t be able to walk right tomorrow… experiment and see what works (more on how to do that later…)

2) Being Playful

– What is Being Playful:

o Misinterpreting what they say, teasing, role plays, not taking anything too serious.

– Why being playful works:

o This should be self-explanatory but girls go out at night to have fun, and relax. Being playful and fun will allow you to make girls feels more at ease and comfortable with you. A lot of my comfort game is just me being silly with them. You don’t want to run crazy comfort because then they’ll see you as BF material. They still might fuck you that night (lot less likely), but then they’re hooked and you’re going to have a problem getting them to leave or just stay in Friends with Benefits mode without hurting their feelings. You also don’t want to throw comfort out because they gotta know you’re not some creepy dude that invented the date rape drug.

o When you’re playful you set the tone of an interaction. They’ll be thinking, “This guy is fun, different and he’s not trying to impress me. Not necessarily a guy I’d take home to meet the rents but I’d fuck him.” The thin-slice of someone who’s playful is that he’s not looking for anything serious because that’s not how he’s acting, he’s spontaneous, a little crazy, funny, dominating (risk-taker, goes for what he wants), and all these traits will roll over to how she assumes you are in bed.

So how to be playful:

o Role plays – get married, divorced, use content from the convo to assign her roles and positions in life. Example: Girl wound up driving me and my friends around town one night, blasting Beyonce all night long (Beyonce is a stand up gal, and fine as hell, but I’d rather jerk off with sand paper than listen to her music). So now she’s my driver, as long as she gets rid of the Beyonce and looks good in the new limo uniform I picked out for her (dental floss, with a Yankee hat ;-) ). There’s plenty of role plays out there, but I suggest making up your own as you go along, it’s easier and way more effective.

o Don’t take anything serious and misinterpret shit. Something Braddock and Daxx will say is “So basically you hate me cause I’m black” even though they’re both white. I’ll introduce myself, get her name and tell them we just got through our first date. It’s just creating silly scenarios that don’t take too much mental effort for them to act out. Over exaggerate everything, if a girl bumps into you and says: “Sorry”; “yeah don’t let that happen again ?” “or what!” (maybe this is more a confrontational NY thing) “Well I haven’t hit a girl in like 6 days (start stretching)” – Credit to Calabrese.

o Caveat to this, if she says something that’s serious or meaningful to her, take it serious and talk about it for a second or two, and then change the topic.

o Bar games – Fuck Marry Kill, chopping game, Tell her, people watch, thumb wrestle, there’s a shit ton of games available for you to look up on theattractionforums.com if you’re interested in them.

o Flirting – I put this under being playful because well when you flirt you’re not saying anything too serious, it’s pretty much all done in a joking manner. Something I’ll say is “So this is what flirting feels like, sweet, what do I do next?” This will lead into Teasing…

o Braddock and Dahunter did a whole interview series on teasing so I’ll just give an overview:

o Tease the general: “Oh I’m from the Bronx” “Sweet so which gang did you join after elementary school?”

o Call them out on silly shit: “You’re drinking beer out of a bottle?!? What’re you too good for cans or something? High maintenance, I knew it.” When all they serve is bottles (credit Braddock)

o Don’t button push and constantly bring up the same joke over and over, it looses it’s resonance and it comes across as try hard

o Don’t tease their passions unless you give credit to them first

o And tease along a gradient, small teases at first, if she responds well and laughs, maybe banters back, then throw out bigger ones, don’t think you need to escalate to the world series (go Yankees) of teases and throw out the meanest biggest ones you can think of. I usually just do a lot of small ones and maybe run some constant themes through out the interaction.

o This is a 30,000 ft view of that interview series and what you’ll learn at workshop, so if you’re interested in hearing more get your ass to one of Braddocks BC’s or get that IVS!!

Ok this is enough to get you guys started… The next article will be posted shortly and is about Push Pull, Takeaways, and Sexual Hoops… stay tuned and you’ll get the scoop!!

– Dubbsy

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Dating Coach Dubbsy on One Night Stands
I was just listening to Braddock and Daxxâ?? s interview on Take-aways & Boundaries and itâ??s inspired me to write up a post on how to get one night stands, and getting them to leave after. This is pretty much what I aim for when I go out, Iâ??m not […]


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Dating Coach Dubbsy on One Night Stands
I was just listening to Braddock and Daxxâ??s interview on Take-aways & Boundaries and itâ??s inspired me to write up a post on how to get one night stands, and getting them to leave after.This is pretty much what I aim for when I go out, Iâ??m not […]


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Can I holla at moving to LA!!
So Calabrese, Pendrixx, and I are going to be making the move out to LA early December.  Can’t wait for this, “Sorry NY, you’re fuckin out, LA is in!!”


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Can I holla at moving to LA!!

So Calabrese, Pendrixx, and I are going to be making the move out to LA early December.  Can’t wait for this, “Sorry NY, you’re fuckin out, LA is in!!”

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Question on Sticking Points

What’s up people!! My blog is starting to pick up and get more hits these days, so I’m going to be posting a lot more. We get a lot of similar questions in emails and through private messages on The Attraction Forums. If you’ve sent me one and I haven’t answered, I’m sorry, there’s a lot to keep up with… If you want to make sure to get your question(s) answered, email Jeremy@lovesystems.com and set up a phone consultation.

With the permission of Darkcharm from the lounge and forums, I am posting his question and my response so hopefully everyone can take away at least one thing… Ok here’s Darkcharm’s question on some sticking points…

Dubbsy! What’s up man??

A little bit of background: Since the Workshop I have been going out non-stop…3-4 times a week… several hours at a time!! The entire experience was incredibly eye-opening. Before the Workshop I didn’t know how to create attraction and honestly thought that I would NEVER get a girlfriend again (just had gotten out of a three year relationship 4 months prior to meeting Soul)

I have gotten to the point where I can open and hook almost all sets (we all get the ocassional blow out), create attraction while simultaneously qualifying….this leads me to the ability to ‘bounce’ sets as well as create ’solid’ instant-dates and day2’s (obviously, my attraction/qualification aren’t perfect, but they’re getting the job done )

Here comes the SP:

1) My comfort game is suffering. I’ve learned to come in very high energy and tease….and my qualification still has much of this high energy with it as well, so when I go on dates….this energy follows me! (and has gotten me out of several potential lays :/) What would you recommend is the the best way to learn comfort as well as lower the energy levels?? Is there a system I can follow for comfort??? have you gone through a similar problem before?

2) I kino alot! but I’m not sure that I am doing it ‘right’…. (have gotten make-outs, and gone further, but I wasn’t following a pattern each time)….is there a specific ‘map’ you follow for kino? What are some mind-sets that will help with physical escalation improving and transitioning smooothly???

Thanks for all the help bro!! Not to get all fucking ‘bromantic’ but seeing you in-field helped me alot I’ve only seen game playing towards the ‘feminine’ polarity but it was good seeing somebody ‘fearless’ in action…. You’ll do some big things for sure homie!

I know you’re doing a lot of Day Game and were beastin it in vegas! Props homie for keeping up and doing work!

Q & A

1) You’re just like me in that “high energy” suits your personality…but the key is to tone it down. Everything in moderation, so if you’re high energy and playful a lot, don’t forget to have serious, or passionate conversations. Talk about where you see yourself in the future, where she see’s herself, use deeper cold reads Share some philosophical shit you think of, some theories or something you have an opinion on. Here’s something I started doing in Comfort, I talk about how I think people who get into serious relationships too young are missing out on a lot in life and their relationships usually go south (that’s why 50% of marriages end in divorce). How you don’t start to truly figure out who you and what your passion and purpose is until your mid-late twenties. And I give some examples of shit how there’s no one person who’s “right” for you, but how there’s people who are right for you in certain times of your life. if you want a transcript of what I’d say, email me Dubbsy@lovesystems.com).

So as you know I tend to tease a lot and be playful and set a lot of fuck buddy/one night stand frames (above is an example of a comfort one I use, cause if they agree or share similar experiences, they’re accepting that this isn’t going to turn into a relationship as I’m only 23), and then sprinkle in low key frames as well.

So my comfort game looks like this:

One last point on Comfort… Braddock has a great way of explaining this… he says while you’re in attraction you’re going like 150 mph, and you gotta slow it down while you’re doing qualification and comfort, but you can’t just slam on the breaks, so you ease everything into it, your game should be enough attraction to gain compliance to qualify, all the while you’re qualifying you’re sprinkling in attraction spikes, and while you’re comfort you’re sprinkling in attraction spikes and qualification “spikes” as well.

So there’s how I do comfort from a 30k foot view.

Question numero dos…

2) During Day Game, you don’t want to go past friendly touching: Hand shake, light touch on their arm, etc.. Touching on a date:

Some Mindsets for escalating…you’re going to fuck this up a bunch of times before you get it right, but for a month or so, be the touchy guy and see how far you can take things. The line is usually a lot farther than you think. Another tip, go to a strip club, get used to being touched by women all the time and get comfortable touching them back every so often (make sure you stop touching them if they say so otherwise bouncers will not be happy).
Also realize that women (as well as most people) love to be touched (correctly) and have a crazzzzy wild sexual side…read the book “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday… that’ll clear up any doubts you have about that subject ;-) .

Tips for touching…

There’s a couple of things to get you started…hope this helps you out with your Sticking Points homie!! Keep in touch!!

-D